Ejaculation ahead of time is a very common sexual disorder. The essence of it is that orgasm and ejaculation occur immediately after the onset of sexual intercourse, and sometimes before the man enters the penis into the vagina. Both partners experience this discomfort. Women are upset because they do not have time to get almost no pleasure, and men - because they failed to carry out a normal sexual intercourse. In addition, a man can feel fear from the mere thought that he has stopped "controlling" his body. In addition to this already unpleasant picture, so many women do not do anything to somehow mitigate the negative feeling, and this only increases the suffering of the partner. If this problem is repeated during subsequent sexual intercourses, a conflict situation can develop between partners, which can lead to other problems, even to the complete loss of the woman's desire for intimacy.
The duration of the sexual intercourse is individual in each case, but almost half of the patients who have turned to sexopathologists complain of premature ejaculation. This evaluation of their potency, as a rule, is subjective. Men are able to greatly exaggerate the problem and worry too much about the issues of erection and its quality, and also about the duration of intimacy.
If you focus on the opinion of doctors on this subject, the average duration of the sexual act, from the time of introduction of the member into the vagina and before the ejaculation begins, in some cases, from 1.5 to 4.5 minutes. If the sexual act was preceded by a prelude, and the partner was very excited, during this time she will also have an orgasm. Therefore, a short one can be called sexual intercourse, which lasts less than 1.5 minutes, and premature is considered ejaculation, which occurred 30 seconds after its beginning. The second indicator of the time of onset of ejaculation can be called the number of frictions. If their number is less than 30, then the ejaculation that has come after them can be called premature.
However, these estimates can not fully express the sensations that a woman experiences during sexual intercourse. Even the longest sexual intercourse does not guarantee an offensive partner's orgasm.>
In some cases, the moment of the highest pleasure can be held just a minute after the beginning of intimacy, and in some women and after 4-5 minutes can not reach orgasm. Therefore, the man's fears of premature ejaculation are based only on the fact that his partner simply does not manage to reach orgasm during their sexual intercourse. In these cases, patients are recommended additional ways of prolonging sexual intercourse in the form of special sprays or lubricants.
The lack of orgasm in a partner can cause them to question their strength even men who can have sexual intercourse for 10 minutes or more. Early ejaculation usually occurs in adolescents and young men who do not have sexual experience. Young men may, due to nervous overexcitation or increased sensitivity of nerve endings on the head of the penis, experience orgasm after only 3-5 frictions and even before the introduction of the penis into the vagina. As the development of sexual experience, the duration of intimate relationships increases. However, failure is always accompanied by very powerful stress, which can affect further sexual contacts.
To answer the question about the prevalence of premature ejaculation in adult men is not easy: the data of any sociological surveys are often very different from the real picture. Some sources claim that this problem is observed in 40% of men, others - that of 70%. But in both cases, there is a curious pattern: for men with a higher education, this disorder occurs more often than those who did not aspire to education. According to some experts, the reason for this pattern is that an educated person thinks more about a partner, trying to give her as much pleasure as possible. And for this reason this category of men is more likely to experience because of their sexual abilities.
Premature ejaculation can develop at the level of a reflex if the very first sexual contacts took place in an uncomfortable situation or there was a need for an as soon as possible completion. The habit developed in youth can become stable and in the subsequent sex life influence the duration of sexual intimacy. Early ejaculation can also be a consequence of masturbation in adolescence, if the boy was afraid of being suddenly seen by adults.
Early ejaculation can also be manifested by the resumption of intimacy after a long absence of sexual contacts. The increased excitement experienced at this moment, can significantly accelerate the onset of ejaculation, which entails fear of loss of potency or the appearance of any disease. It happens that this phenomenon entails the subsequent abstinence. The man consciously pushes off the moment of the onset of a new intimacy in an attempt to return the "spent forces".
In such situations, when a man becomes ready for a new sexual act, ejaculation occurs much faster. As a consequence, a man becomes a victim of his own indecisiveness and fear. Cope with these problems can help a series of sexual intercourse, which are committed with small pauses. In this case, the nerve receptors responsible for the onset of ejaculation begin to function normally, and the sexual contacts begin to gradually become longer.
There are situations where the cause of dysfunction associated with early ejaculation, becomes excessively active behavior during sex on the part of the partner. But in this case, the best doctors will be trust in each other and mutual understanding. And only the partners themselves must decide what they should do - to restrain their emotions to the woman, or to look for other ways to overcome this problem.