— WHY IS MASTURBATION SO NOTORIOUS?”
— Over this glory worked more a hundred years. Already 150 years ago, people were frightened by the harmful effects of Masturbation. In the United States, she devoted entire books. One of them is the work by Benjamin Rosenblum, 1841 with the famous title “a Collection of many information and tips for parents, caregivers and teachers, and to every friend of humanity, who have a goal to save young people from the terrible effects of Masturbation” (A compilation of a set of necessary information and advice for parents, educators and teachers, and for every friend of humanity who have the goal of saving young people from the terrible consequences of masturbation).
“MASTURBATION” IS A BEAUTIFUL WORD.
Teeth chattering. It used to be that Masturbation was an autoaggressive act, almost like cutting your hands or swallowing sharp objects — something they do sometimes in prisons.
Europe was no better. In 1782, a book by the Swiss physician Samuel Auguste Tissot, Onanism: diseases resulting from Masturbation, was published (L’onanisme. Dissertation sur les maladies produites par la masturbation). With this book, the struggle with Masturbation.
ANOTHER GOOD NAME.
The father of Polish sexology Stanislav Kurkevich, who called himself a doctor of sexual Affairs, at the turn of the XIX and XX centuries wrote: “young People of both sexes do not find a better entertainment than to teach Masturbation to one another (and one another).”
YES, THAT’S BLOOMING! DID THE ESTEEMED DOCTOR HAVE ANY IDEAS ON HOW TO HELP THE YOUTH?
— Certainly. “Constant and strict supervision of the company of young people day and night is mandatory for parents, older brothers and sisters, educators and other loved ones.”
It is DIFFICULT to LAUGH at THIS, ESPECIALLY IF you KNOW that BACK in the 70s of the twentieth CENTURY, SEXOLOGISTS, for example, PROFESSOR ANDRZEJ YACHEVSKY, ARGUED that JOINT MASTURBATION of BOYS during PUBERTY CAN LEAD to HOMOSEXUALITY.
— The Professor’s views — erroneous, of course-are merely a reflection of the state of research in the field at the time. These thoughts were then expressed by Professor Lev-Starovich. Of course, now he does not say so, especially given the fact that homosexuality was removed from the list of diseases, as there are a number of studies proving that homosexuality is a normal orientation, not a perversion. If the reader is interested in this topic, I recommend reading our previous book ” as a man with a man.”
— FRIEND OF JOHN PAUL II, WANDA POLTAWSKA, WHICH HAD A GREAT INFLUENCE ON HIS VIEWS, WROTE: “I SPENT 40 YEARS WORKING IN THIS FIELD AND HAVE NEVER MET PARENTS WHO ARE ENTHUSIASTIC WOULD APPLY TO SUCH “GAMES” THEIR CHILDREN, AND NEVER MET ONE WHO WOULD BE HAPPY AND BE PROUD TO BE ENGAGED IN MASTURBATION. QUITE THE OPPOSITE: THIS BEHAVIOR CAUSES A FEELING OF POWERLESSNESS TOWARDS YOUR BODY AND A SENSE OF COERCION.”
— Wanda Poltawska was a psychiatrist, it is referred to patients with obsessions. Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) is a disease that also manifests itself through involuntary Masturbation. But compulsive Masturbation is something quite different from “everyday”Masturbation. Therefore, let us not confuse phenomena and facts.
“THEY SAY EVEN CORNFLAKES WERE INVENTED AS A CURE FOR MASTURBATION.”
— In 1877, Dr. John Kellogg in the United States invented cornflakes to combat Masturbation. Yeah, the ones we eat in the morning. He believed that heavy meat dishes arouse sexual desire, and cereal reduces it.
— WHEN OPINION ABOUT MASTURBATION HAS CHANGED?
-In the late 80-ies of XX century, Wieslaw Sokoliuk, one of the most respected Polish sexologists, in the book “on family life” (Przysposobienie do życia w rodzinie) wrote about Masturbation: “Until it is completely out of control, destructively affecting you and slowing down the implementation of your life goals, not allowing you to develop and enjoy all available opportunities, you have no reason to worry.”
— I BET YOU STILL HAVE CLIENTS WHO THINK MASTURBATION IS BAD.”
— Certainly. And it’s not a small group. These are religious people or those who were subjected to religious pressure in childhood, hence their beliefs. One of my clients used to pour boiling water over his palms to prevent the pain from masturbating. With such men it is necessary to work on that they accepted the sexuality.
Strange things are happening in my office. A man who lives under the yoke of religion, sits on this sofa, where an hour ago sat the father Abbot, who here solves problems with erection, as “with one parishioner weakly rises, and with a prostitute in General trouble.”
— DO YOU WORK WITH CONFESSORS?
— Often. As a sexologist, I shouldn’t (I shouldn’t even) make moral judgments. Once I asked such a client in a cassock (although, of course, they do not come to me in a cassock) about the difference between what they say from the pulpit and what is happening in their lives. He said,”If we took every thing written in the Bible as literally as what it says about sex, we would have problems with physics and biology and chemistry.”
“TOO BAD HE DIDN’T HAVE THE COURAGE TO SAY THAT IN THE SERMON.” WELL, NOTHING, SAY IT STRAIGHT NOW: CONTEMPORARY SEXOLOGY DOES NOT CONSIDER MASTURBATION A BAD THING?
— There are two types of Masturbation: arousal, desire, sexual feelings, and compulsive. The first is used for the purpose for which it was created — to maintain the body in readiness for procreation, to create relationships between people. The second is art for art’s sake, it regulates non-sexual feelings: anger, sadness, resentment, loneliness. It’s a dead end.
ONLY MASTURBATION, CAUSED BY DESIRE, IS NATURAL.
Not only natural, sexologists recommend it.
RECOMMEND?
People who do not have sex, to reduce the risk of prostate cancer. People who are in a relationship, but their sexual desire is much greater than that of the partner or partner. People who, for example, on a business trip and do not want to change partner.
“AND THE OTHERS?”
Masturbation has a good effect on the nervous, respiratory, circulatory and sexual system, it has a relaxing effect on the body. But, as with other things, Masturbation can be overdone. From it can be fall into dependence — and further and from pornography. It can be a source of procrastination-procrastination.
— HOW DOES THE ADDICTIVE MECHANISM OF PORNOGRAPHY WORK?”
“Man is constantly seeing new images, and evolution is squeezing him like a lemon. Thanks to all the new stimuli on the screen, it motivates a person to get another orgasm, watch another movie, sit for another hour. It is possible for life to stay there — behind.
There is another problem, which is not talked about publicly, but I often see it in the office: it is the dependence on a specific kind of stimulation, which is difficult to repeat later in sex. As I said, some men when masturbating sit on the corner of a chair or table and thus exert pressure on the g-spot And in sex it does not work! Then it becomes difficult to enjoy it. Such people perceive sexual life with the partner as a duty, and derive pleasure from Masturbation in a habitual form.
— IS THERE ANY WAY TO DECODE IT?”
You can, but it’s a long process. The first few (sometimes dozens) intimacies of pleasure will not be, or it will be insignificant, but you need to step over it to the brain rebuilt.
You can also show the person who has sex with you what kind of stimulation you like.
— BUT WE RARELY TALK ABOUT OUR SEXUAL PREFERENCES.”
— Exactly.
Another method of Masturbation that can have a bad effect on sex is stimulation of the head with the foreskin. There’s no way to copy that in a break-in.
“YES, A WOMAN DOESN’T HAVE ANYTHING AT THE END OF HER VAGINA THAT HITS HER HEAD DURING INTERCOURSE. I’VE ALSO HEARD THAT YOU SHOULDN’T COME WHEN YOU’RE NOT FULLY ERECT.
Yes, but only at the age of 15-25 years. Young men masturbate without waiting for a full erection, and finish. At this age, everything that brings us to orgasm — what we fantasize about, what we desire, what excites us, how the stimulation occurs, how we hold the penis — is very clearly recorded, and then these young men can be deposited that you can only cum in a semi-erect state.
SO YOU CAN MASTURBATE, JUST NOT TOO FAST AND NOT TOO HARD.
— A man who gets used to squeeze the penis like a barbell in the gym, will never feel such pressure in the vagina, because of which he may lose an erection during penetration. His partner will most likely have no steel muscles in her vagina and an erection will fall.
WHAT ABOUT THE FACT THAT ACTIVE MASTURBATION AT A YOUNG AGE CAN LEAD TO A PROBLEM WITH SEXUAL LIFE IN ADULTHOOD?
— There is no such rule. There are people who have masturbated, and they are fine, and those who have an immature personality. There are those who have not masturbated, and they have a healthy personality, and those who have an immature personality.
HOW LONG SHOULD MASTURBATION LAST?
“Just a few minutes.” There is no sense to run ahead of the engine, enjoy Masturbation. This is important, because then it will affect sex. I have “capable” clients who can come in 30 seconds while masturbating. And then during intimacy comes disaster, because in body already videotaped: “the Optimal expectancy contact for me — 30 seconds. We continue the same way.”
“WOMEN USUALLY REACT WITH JEALOUSY IF THEY CATCH THEIR PARTNERS PLAYING WITH THEMSELVES.”
— They’re sorry that their partner is aroused by something outside the relationship, that they’re not the source of desire. That he’d rather do it alone than with her. In addition, men usually masturbate while watching pornography, and women are afraid that they are expected to do the same. To make them look and act like porn stars.
— DO MEN REALLY EXPECT WOMEN TO DO SEXUAL ACROBATICS?”
Often Yes. They want their partner to like anal, oral sex against a man, Fisting, that is, stimulation of the vagina with a brush, or rimming, that is, oral caresses of the anus. They want to copy one to one what they saw in the film, but face the problem: copying porn is like trying to copy James bond jumping out of a speeding train or helicopter.