Decreased Sex Drive
More than half of women and a third of men experience difficulties in bed. Driven inside stress, fatigue, lack of time can destroy and sexual desire, and excitement, and orgasm.
More than half of women and a third of men experience difficulties in bed. Driven inside stress, fatigue, lack of time can destroy and sexual desire, and excitement, and orgasm. Sometimes the decrease of the sexual instinct is influenced by violations of the hormonal balance or due to some medications.
Specialists in sexual psychotherapy do not like to resort to estimates of intimate life on the basis of the frequency of sexual intercourse and call any numbers to indicate the norm. Naturally, if you have sexual intercourse twice a month or less, such activity is considered to be low. However, a decrease in sexual desire should only be perceived as a disorder when it causes problems in relationships with a partner outside the bedroom.
Sexual desire can be compared to appetite. It’s no secret that it is almost impossible to impose your opinion about the taste or convince yourself that you really do not get any pleasure. You may perceive some kinds of tempting food as a gourmet dessert, but that doesn’t mean you can convince anyone who doesn’t feel the need for food. However, you can try to change the situation.
Recommendations from Therapists
Try to diversify sexual relations with new poses and receptions. The most important enemy of most couples is habit. If day after day to see on the table one thing and the same now — even favorite, in some point this may cause revulsion. And the desire to" change the table", which is not able to cope with all. And all it was worth the risk and replace the sauce…
People with low sex drive often avoid expressing any feelings towards their partners, forgetting that the lack of contact creates the impression that the partner is unwanted and unloved. Do not be afraid to Express your feelings through kisses, light touches to the hands and shoulders, stroking the hair. Both partners need such a demonstration, although they must understand that the expression of their affection for each other does not necessarily serve as a signal for sex.
Read something about an intimate relationship. Erotic literature will fuel and stimulate your sensual beginning that will allow, eventually, to be released from excessive shyness and to Wake up the imagination.
Get rid of depression and stress. In depression, there may be physical disorders and a lack of interest in almost everything, including the extinction of sexual desire. In addition, it often turns out that both partners work. The needs of professional growth, the need for training to raise children-all this refers to the stress factors that reduce sexual desire and can cause a person a state of apathy when it comes to sex. To overcome this situation, you can only set the right priorities — none of the domestic or industrial problems are not worth it to give them too much time, effort and emotion. Sexopathologists advise to make an appointment with your partner, try to have not only sex, but also just talk to each other.
Take a close look at the medications you are taking. A number of drugs, especially some psychotropic and antidepressants, as well as means to reduce blood pressure can lead to a weakening of sexual desire. If you are taking drugs that you believe cause you to have a sexual instinct disorder, you should consult your doctor about a possible alternative.
First, contact your partner. Eventually, he or she will be the first to notice a decrease in sex drive. Tell us about your problems, inconveniences, concerns and embarrassment about the alleged actions, stressing that you are ready to do it for the sake of maintaining good relations. In an extreme case, contact a friend or family member you trust. The main thing-do not keep it in yourself, turning a temporary problem into a chronic disease.