2017 WAS A TURNING POINT WHEN IT COMES TO SOLVING ERECTION PROBLEMS: DRUGS THAT CAN BE PURCHASED WITHOUT A PRESCRIPTION ENTERED THE MARKET.
— Yes, the turning point is (I want to emphasize this) that these are medications, not dietary supplements.
DIETARY SUPPLEMENTS WITHOUT A PRESCRIPTION HAVE LONG BEEN AVAILABLE. IT’S NOT MEDICINE. DO THEY WORK?
— Most often they contain magnesium, zinc, ginseng, vitamin B6… they won’t hurt us, but will they help?” If you take these supplements for a long time, several months, certain effects will be. But dietary Supplements will never work immediately and radically, as promised advertising. Another deception manufacturers written directly on the packaging: “Take an hour before sexual intercourse.” The BUD will not work an hour after use. With the help of this slogan, they are trying to mow down under the drugs.
— True. Men who use them, but do not see the effect, there is a thought that some defect in them. After all, the ad says that they have helped so many men, “but not me.” Negative comparisons greatly reduce the self-esteem of men.
Drugs differ from dietary supplements in that they are controlled, investigated and have a medical effect. And men buy different products on the Internet, sex shops or stores with different stimulants. At the same time, it is impossible to be sure in any place whether this tool is proven, whether it is effective.
— DO YOU THINK IT’S MORE LIKELY NOT?”
— I’m pretty sure it won’t work.” We must remember that using these tools, you can very quickly plant your heart and liver.
— SO WE DON’T GET IT, WE JUST LOSE IT.
“The dietary Supplement market is a roller coaster. The gangsters I talked to in my office tell me that it’s easier to make money from counterfeiting erectile dysfunction drugs than it is to smuggle cigarettes or steal expensive cars.
Some men try other methods. For example, vaseline or paraffin is injected into the penis. It’s a good thing it’s not oil, because I’ve heard such ideas, too. But paraffin can also cause various complications.
— WHERE DID THIS IDEA COME FROM?”
— When erectile dysfunction is primarily used pharmacological treatment. But if someone has problems with cardiology or diabetes, use injections into the cavernous bodies of the penis, for this purpose a tool called prostaglandin E1 is used. It remains in the cavernous body for three hours, after which it disperses through the body and is excreted.
— IS THAT A PRE-SEX SHOT?”
— Yeah. But wax is still one problem lies in the fact that it remains, it is difficult to completely withdraw from the body. For men who inject it, this is a plus, because they get a long erection, but for the body it is a huge minus.
“LOOKS LIKE IT.”
— My friend works in the reception Department of the clinic and sometimes says that they get people who have injected themselves. This is not as rare as it may seem. And at the same time-very unsafe. In the margins, I note that this friend often meets with situations when women come with genital inflammation, because after sexual intercourse, they rinsed the vagina with Cola or vinegar for contraception.
IT REMAINS TO BE EXPECTED THAT THE MINISTER OF HEALTH WILL PROHIBIT THE SALE OF VINEGAR TO WOMEN.
— In fact, it’s very risky to give pricks to the penis. A small wound is formed around the injection site, and there is a gradual scarring of the tissue. Over time, it reacts less and less to stimuli. This method in the long run can lead to the opposite effect desired.
— I ONCE DID A THEATER PROJECT IN PRISON. MOST OF THE PRISONERS HAD GOOD MUSCLES. THEN I READ SOMEWHERE THAT THEY INJECT THEMSELVES WITH SOME KIND OF OIL.
“In the movie Pitbull. Dangerous women ” one of the heroes injected himself with paraffin under the skin to protect the bones. Thin guy, often fought, wanted to protect himself from blows. Similarly, the oil known in the market as “Synthol” is injected by prisoners into the biceps and triceps. This supposedly improves the appearance, but with a high probability leads to disastrous consequences for health, up to death. I recommend googling what men look like after the introduction of “Synthol”.
— I GOOGLED IT. IT’S A PITY THAT YOU CAN’T ” SEE ” IT!
“Some people inject Synthol into the penis. Just looking at these photos with “Synthol” in the penis makes you feel sick.
— I’M NOT GOOGLING ANYMORE!
— There’s a third method. Operating. The surgeon makes two incisions. He takes out the cavernous bodies and puts two canisters in their place. Next, one testicle is removed, a container of liquid is inserted into the scrotum, to which the canisters are connected. Before sex, the man pumps the liquid into the cans, and after sex, he pumps it out. The procedure in which you need to pump the penis yourself costs more than 100 thousand zlotys. The version in which everything is pumped up by itself at the touch of a button — more than 150 thousand.
AND ALL BECAUSE IN THE PROCESS OF EVOLUTION, WE LOST A BONE IN THE PENIS.
“Yes, several thousand years ago, evolution removed the bone from the male penis and inserted a cavernous body. Man is the only Primate whose erection is caused only by blood pressure.
“THEY USED APHRODISIACS ONCE. SPANISH FLY, YOHIMBE”
— They’re still being used. But all this is more folklore.
In such cases, I remind you to think about the side effects when you use funds from unverified sources. In General, it is a tragedy if a man takes drugs or GBL, gamma-butyrolactone, popularly called drops of violence. In fact, it is a liquid for cleaning car parts from oils. Very caustic. Of course, it is used in scanty quantities, but this does not stop GBL being what it is. This liquid poisons the Central nervous system. Thus weakens the sphincters, the whole body softens. This reduces the level of fear and, more importantly, turns off the control centers.
BUT THIS IS SOME KIND OF POISON.
“What’s that?” But for some, its positive effect is more important.
“AND THE NEGATIVE ONE?”
— I had two clients who were partially paralyzed due to several months of using GBL. For example, the right side of the face was immobilized.
“Men do this because they want not only an erection, but also a change of consciousness.
When a person begins to accept something, to fall into dependence, two mechanisms are activated: negation and illusion. In the first case, the denial of the truth is included: “I understand that this is a toxic substance, but the human body can bear a lot. The kidneys will get it all out somehow. So many people are using, and alive.” Including the mechanism of denial, we are based on what advantages we can get here and now: “Maybe in a year, in ten, I will have some problems, but definitely not now.”
— WHAT IS THE MECHANISM OF ILLUSION BASED ON?”
— On the fact that we record positive facts related to this situation. “Because I use GBL, I will be an alpha male. I will not be afraid of my partner’s opinion about my penis or how I have sex.” Or, if it’s about sexual altruism: “thanks to GBL, I can sleep with my woman to show her how important she is to me, how much I love her.”
In the short term, GBL can actually act this way, especially if the needs of the partner are put first. There are some people who are excited by the satisfaction of a partner or partner, they often experience only a mental orgasm. But this is only part of the sexual altruists. Those for whom it is important and own pleasure, after some time begin to run away in pornography, Masturbation. There is a big difference between sex with a partner, which is essentially sexual serfdom, and sex with yourself, “solo”.
— IN THE END, MEN COME BACK TO YOU AFTER MANY FIGHTS WITH WONDERFUL MEANS.
— And even though I’m a psychotherapist, they often only expect me to give them a prescription. Then I refer them to a urologist or psychiatrist. If the patient wants to take something, it is better that it be drugs, because they are tested in the laboratory, they act as the manufacturer promises. It should be remembered that before the doctor prescribes a medicine, he will conduct a thorough conversation to check whether this medicine will conflict with possible diseases of the client, for example, high blood pressure, diabetes, cardiac problems, etc. About 70% of my clients take or have taken medications!
But we must remember that taking medicines will not teach us anything – neither to arouse excitement, nor to create mood, nor passion.
Drugs don’t teach us basic sexual maintenance. It’s the same with depression. Some want to work on it in therapeutic sessions, others prefer psychotropic substances that suppress the symptoms, but do not allow you to delve into what causes them. And when the events and thoughts that caused the depression come back after giving up the medication, the depression also comes back. The same with erectile dysfunction. A man is going somewhere where he can’t buy a magic pill, and fear and despair come over him. He feels dependent on the medication.
It should also be remembered that drugs for potency do not work in absolutely any situations and on demand.
— “HOW’S THAT?”
— They only create an opportunity. If there is no incentive, the desire of this person, the torch will not light up. Research on potency remedies shows that 60% of men who use them do not feel satisfied and refuse them.
“THAT’S INTERESTING. THAT IS, THE BUTTONS ARE LIT, BUT THE TRAIN IS NOT GOING”
— Besides, the buttons will only light for three hours in the case of Viagra.” It is necessary to calculate well the time between taking the pill and sexual intercourse. For example, someone agreed with a partner for six, took a pill. He’s here, trying to initiate something, and she’s not in the mood. She wants to create a romantic atmosphere, watch a movie together… He’s getting more and more nervous because he’s past eight. So does she, because she doesn’t understand what’s bothering him. He doesn’t tell her, of course, that he has sex “with insurance.” Well, they can’t have a romantic evening.
“WHY DOESN’T HE TELL HIS PARTNER HE TOOK THE PILL?”
— Because erection problems mean failure for him, and he doesn’t want to admit failure.” He is afraid of the reaction of his partner: “the last time I had this, she went like a week in the water lowered.” Meanwhile, women do not get upset because a man did not have an erection-they get upset because the man then closes and moves away from his partner.
— WHEN HE’S CUT OFF FROM HER, THERE’S NOT MUCH HE CAN LEARN FROM HER.
— It’s as if he played tennis with her, knocked the ball out of bounds, sat down on the ground and stopped talking. It would ruin her mood more than a run-out ball. Women believe that even without the ball on the court, you can arrange a lot of different interesting games.
— THE LAST SCENE OF ANTONIONI’S FILM “PHOTO-MAGNIFICATION”CAN SERVE AS AN INSPIRATION.
Lack of communication can lead to real drama in the relationship. My client went on vacation with his wife. She’d found Viagra somewhere in the bathroom when she’d seen his stuff. It destroyed her world. Does he have a mistress? Or was she unattractive?
What if he told her, “Look, I have an erection problem, I take pills and go to the doctor”?
“THAT’S RIGHT. IF HE HAD TOLD HER?”
— That wouldn’t be a problem for most women. Of course, I mean those who do not take everything personally, believing that the lack of an erection in a partner is caused by the fact that they have ceased to be attractive. These women — like many men-think that there is something like an erection on demand, and the pill is a Supplement.
Some of them in the office admit that when their partner uses erection pills, they feel like a Masturbation tool. They perceive this as their objectification in sex. Maybe because a man — despite the fact that he took the pills-continues to live in a world of their fears and fears and sex is more willing to show themselves than to please a woman.
— SO THIS MAN’S FEAR OF TELLING A WOMAN THE TRUTH ISN’T ENTIRELY UNFOUNDED.
— It is groundless, because correctly submitted to the partner information about medication will not cause rejection on her part.
— BUT THE SO-CALLED AVERAGE MAN DOES NOT ADMIT TO HIS PARTNER THAT HE HAS PROBLEMS WITH AN ERECTION. HE GOES TO THE BATHROOM FOR SOME REASON TO QUICKLY SWALLOW A PILL.
She goes to the bathroom to swallow a pill or watch porn on her smartphone. There is a downside to this coin: when a woman offers sex, a man suddenly begins to figure out how to free a second, it makes her suspicious. This is well shown in the second season of the series “True detective”, when one of the police constantly took “Viagra” and had to wait in any way until it works.
— WAIT FOR THE CONNECTION… WAIT FOR THE CONNECTION…»
— When the truth suddenly comes out, a woman gets angry because she thinks she’s not arousing her partner. Which, of course, is a mistake, because these pills are not to cause arousal, but to correct the “hydraulics”. They do not have any magic, they just increase the” capacity ” of blood vessels.
— SO WHEN A WOMAN DOESN’T EXCITE A MAN, EVEN A TON OF VIAGRA WON’T HELP?”
— Yeah. Drugs for potency only relax the microscopic fibers that surround the vessels of the penis. The fibers expand, more blood flows to the penis — there is an erection. We can learn an important lesson from how this mechanism works.
— DO YOU NEED TO RELAX BEFORE SEX?
— Yeah. Not to shrink, but to relax. Not to wind yourself up with porn, horror, heavy music, and listen to something relaxing. This will bring a much better effect.
To me once came a porn actor who starred in movies and (for money) in Amateur porn for abroad. In the morning, he was cheered up by techno music, drugs, before shooting, he watched a lot of horror movies to better excite his body. At first it worked, but then it stopped. Every day he needed so many strong stimuli that in the end he fell into a trap. In the long run, this method does not work, because sexuality requires relaxation.
I will add that there are new drugs on the market: “Spedra”, “Cialis”, which have a longer effect. “Cialis” works 36 hours, and women treat it much better.
— She knows that the partner took Cialis yesterday, and then he has no erection all day, and in the evening, when they start flirting, an erection appears — for her it is a signal that she excites him. It feels like a subject, and does not perceive it as objectification.
— I MEAN, IT’S ALL RIGHT.
— As we have already said, a common cause of erectile dysfunction is the fear of intimacy. The pill is necessary for a man to make his sexuality Autonomous, so that it acts independently of the second person. The iron rule we promote is that an erection requires intimacy, security, cooperation, and mutual trust between two people.
SO LET’S RELAX, MEN!
— Around 1992, when erection pills were introduced, therapists believed that 30 % of erection disorders were organic, biological problems, and 70 % came from the head. As a result of the popularity of the new tools, cheers and optimism reigned, and these proportions were temporarily destroyed. It seemed that any problem could be cured with a pill. However, in the 2000s, doctors realized that the magic pill does not solve problems at all, but only increases the pressure in the penis. As a result, the division of the causes of dysfunction returned: psychogenic-70 % and to a lesser extent physiological-30 %. And they are not very correctly separated. We’re talking about biopsychosocial causes.
“WHAT DO YOU MEAN?”
— When you are with someone in bed, the problems are not only either biological or psychological (your feelings, emotions, thoughts, reactions). Both the body and the head must function.
— WHAT ABOUT THE SOCIAL ASPECT?”
— The social aspect covers everything that culture and society tell us about how we should look and behave. That is, how many centimeters in length should be our penis, how long should the act last, how should the prelude look like, and so on. With all these pictures, often drawn from pornography, taken from conversations with friends, we go to bed.
— IT’S GETTING CROWDED.
— Under the influence of these pictures, many men have a picture of good sex in their head — this is the intersection of sexual acrobatics with slotting to prove something, and not to delve into an intimate relationship with a partner and have a good time. Women need the closeness of the game. Sex is for entertainment, not to follow the instructions from above that our brain has programmed, having heard social myths out of the corner of our ear.
— AND DURING GAMES DO NOT SPEAK AND DO NOT THINK.
— At least not too much.
Behind potential problems in sex there are three layers, which, in a good way, you should always remember. Meanwhile, the urologist is focused only on the physiological aspect. He’ll prescribe a pill, and for now. In the United States, there are interdisciplinary teams consisting of a doctor, a psychiatrist, and a sexologist or sex educator. This, in my opinion, works much better.
— MAYBE IT’S TIME TO INTRODUCE SUCH TEAMS IN POLAND?
— You need to work in a complex way, because only the pill itself will not change the direction of thoughts. People who are prone to fears, neuroses, will be nervous, despite the use of the pill. So some get something with it against fear. But this is still only a suppression of problems, because it does not change the type of thinking of men.
— HOW TO TAKE “IBUPROM” FOR TOOTHACHE: CARIES BECAUSE IT WILL NOT STOP.
— A bird needs two wings and a tail to fly. It won’t fly away on biology alone.
But even biology needs to be treated more deeply, going beyond the problems of urology.
— WHAT ELSE SHOULD I PAY ATTENTION TO?”
— A professional doctor should talk to the patient, check whether there are any problems with the heart, blood supply, diabetes, thyroid, depression. Because erection problems can be caused by cardiology, endocrinology, psychology, neurology. First, sometimes you need to cure the underlying disease. In the diagram on page 203, I wrote out the main problems that affect erectile dysfunction. Remember: problems with sex are 10 years ahead of heart problems.